What excites you?

Have you written down what excites you yet?  You see, this was the task after listening to the first ‘I Choose Marvellous’ Facebook Live session.  To get started with your goals, write down what excites you.  Go on, do it now.

This can be more challenging than you think!  When was the last time you really thought about the things that excite you?

Sometimes as adults we get so caught up in what we ‘have to’ do we don’t get to think about what excites us!  Here’s your chance – when we know what we want or where we would like to be, creating plans to get ‘there’ get a whole lot easier!!

Here are the dot points on goals that I want you take away:

  • We all know about the SMART goals framework – so I’m not going to cover this – if you aren’t familiar with it – just google it.
  • We are talking about next level goal setting here, goals so personalised that they get you out of bed in the morning, to make sure they happen!
  • Goals need to be written down – there is something really powerful about your own handwriting!  And put somewhere you can see them everyday.
  • You need to be accountable for your goals – one way to do this is to tell someone you trust, someone who has your back all the details of your plan – so they can diplomatically inquire about the goals from time to time – this keeps you honest.
  • You have to own your goals, or in other words take responsibility for them – don’t use someone else’s, that’s just silly.  If you own them, they are yours and no one can take them away, but by owning them, means you are the only one who can make them happen!
  • Measure your progress – it is like when you are doing a 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle and you compare what you have done to the box – it doesn’t matter if you have only done the borders, at least you have started and know how much you have to go until you finish it.
  • You must celebrate wins – a win is any progress.  Every step along the way to a goal is a win.  Whilst I’m not suggesting crackers and fireworks every time you get ahead, celebrating wins keeps us in the game.  It allows us to ‘review’ if you like how far we’ve come and ultimately keeps us on track by making the progress seem worthwhile.

Wow, my blogs this year were going to be shorter than 2016….I think this one is not. Goals are just so crucial to choosing marvellous lives that I don’t apologise for this longer than expected post!

If you haven’t already, write down the things that excite you and get thinking.  Thinking about how you can have more of them in 2017 and beyond!!

 

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Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results!

What if there was such a perfect world and you were able to be positive in every instance in your life?  Could you imagine that?  I don’t know if I could imagine that?!  Even if you wanted to be, you also know that this is practically impossibly…..

But its lots of people’s advice, isn’t it?  When someone comes out with that ill-timed ‘just look on the bright side’, its not always easy, is it?

Straight off the top of my head I can think of instances when I really and truly struggle to ‘be positive’.  For example, when my computer at work says ‘access denied’ for the fourth week running or when I take my children to the shops and they behave like they have never seen fellow humans before.  Or when I clean the house and my children successfully mess it up within minutes of my completion….you know those moments!

Interestingly enough, prior to each incident I have had hopeful thoughts of ‘this will be a success this time’ or ‘I’m strong enough to handle this today’.  And yet, every time I still react, sometimes in a way I’m not particularly proud of, after the incident.

Albert Einstein said ‘Insanity or stupidity (depending which meme you read) is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result…..  Of course,  I wouldn’t like to think I’m stupid or insane, however, it is with my strengths that I wholeheartedly expect the outcome to be different.

So even when one of my personal strengths is persistence (and I believe one day I will take my children to the shops and they will behave like respectable humans), for now, I have to look at it like it is progress and there is a lesson.  For what I have learned each time is to pick my battles wisely and I know that with each ‘battle’ I’m getting stronger!

‘Pick your battles’ – That is my standard line, mostly to myself to remind me that I get to decide the way I choose to see it.  Right there, is a Sliding Doors (the movie) moment.  I have a choice and I am entitled to choose my response to what happens in my life.  It is the only thing I have control over.

That decision is mine, and yours too, when faced with similarly aggravating situations.

There will be days when it seems the world is against you, but you can choose how you react and then you need to own these decisions.

Are you content when you look back on your decisions, or are you not, and you waste time overthinking them?

You get to choose to do something different – you might be surprised with the results!

Moving forward, I must take my own advice.  When the children mess up the house, take a breath and remind myself – make my decision and own it!

If-insanity-is-doing-the-same-thing-over-and-over-againI could have written this!!