The Bus Ride

To follow on from my post last week’s about strong women on International Women’s Day, I think today I will write more about the invaluable support friends bring to our lives.  Yep, that’s what I will do – spend a whole blog writing about the support of friends in wellness, weight management and just life in general.

And not just any friends, the type of friends in the words of Oprah Winfrey ‘…who would take the bus with you when your limo breaks down…..’  It is my sincere hope that everyone has some of these friends.  You know the ones who it is totally acceptable for them to tell you all the details of why they don’t like your outfit or the ones who are more than ok with coming around to your house to have a nap.  They are the ones.

When it comes to wellness, these friends know they hold incredible power to you guiding on the road to thriving.  They would go out with you when you were having ‘me’ time or stay home with your children (or dog) while you went and had that said ‘me’ time.  Other things they might do is notice when you are doing it tough and actually do something about it, not wait until you lose your s#%t before they take action to help you.

While some of the supports might be the same as wellness, weight loss and gaining  health can also be ably assisted by friends.  They might question if you really need that second piece of cake, or they might gently (!) persuade you to go for a walk or a quick fun run with them – even if your idea of fun is different to theirs!  Regardless of the differences, true friends wholeheartedly want to see you succeed.  And how good is that feeling that someone has your back?!

The friends who you know, without question, want you to succeed are the ones you choose to do life with.  At risk of sounding old, I can absolutely say the value of dear friends is amplified as you get busier, and older!!  These are the friends who you make time for and they make time for you.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ‘phoned a friend’ to share when I was having a bad time.  I didn’t want them to provide solutions, I just knew they wouldn’t question my position and would 100% support me.

The love of a dear friend can be what you need most, even when you don’t know you do.  Or their support might just be the difference between you moving forward or you staying exactly where you are.  Or just that their support kindly points out the funny side of a situation, even if it wasn’t even remotely close to your humour radar!

I’ll finish with a disclaimer – having friends won’t make you immune to tough times, but it will definately make the bus trip of life much more delightful, gratifying and treasured!

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Here’s to new adventures!

Today I went to my first group PT session.  Wouldn’t you think that a good couple of years into my gaining health journey, I would have been to one?!  I guess it’s just never lined up with my schedule, or perhaps I have just never made it happen.  But, low and behold, I really enjoyed it, the camaraderie was really something to be relished.

The group was welcoming, not stand-offish, friendly yet not over-familiar and giving it their all, but yet not competitive – some people would say this is tall ask these days!  Everyone was there for their own reasons, and you know what, nobody asked their reasons.  The leader, Marisa, perhaps knew some of their reasons, but it wasn’t important.  What was important, that despite their reasons and motivations, everyone turned up and gave it their all, not to be the best there, but to be better than yesterday.

‘Being better than yesterday’ is another quote I like, it supports the concept of starting from where you are – wherever that may be, as long as its an improvement on the days prior.

If I had not gone to the class today, I wouldn’t have had this new adventure and I wouldn’t be writing about the supportive network of women I encountered today.

There is always room to be better, and I reckon today, I was!  Yay, me!  I was a little proud. Though only a bit, some of the ladies should be even prouder of themselves, they smashed out some impressive fitness test results!!

My conclusion and in support what I have always known – new adventures are ridiculously good for the mind!  Sometimes they require stepping out of your comfort zone, but hey, life begins at the end of that, doesn’t it?!

Have a great week!

Will your tree grow in 2016?

What if something really disappointing happened?  What if, this time next year you looked back at 2016 and it had been just the same as 2015?  You hadn’t grown, or achieved any goals or gained any more knowledge – you were in exactly the same place as you were 12 months prior.   I don’t know about you but that scene 100% terrifies me, and I know this won’t be happening to me.  Can you think of someone who it could happen to?  What are they working towards? Or are they just getting through each day?  Do they have goals? or are they just happy to remain status quo?  Is that person you?

You see, growing as a person is a decision.  As simple as that, if you decide you don’t want to stay where you are then you are deciding to grow.  I like that.  I heard a quote recently that represented that decision and growth at the same time.  ‘People are like trees – they are either green and growing or ripe and rotting’.  The trees that are ripe and rotting aren’t learning or growing whereas the green and growing ones decide to continue learning and  add positively to their lives and those around them.  Just like trees, you can’t be both, so there lies a decision, are you green and growing or ripe and rotting??

Growing to me means you are able to recognise there is so much ‘out there’ you don’t know and that you are hungry for knowledge.  And this time, Google alone won’t cut it as a source of information!  Continuing with the tree analogy, water is necessary, the water is the resources that will help you grow.  Trees who are growing need water and lots of it.  What will your water be in 2016?  For wellness, the water is the knowledge and skills to make sustainable changes to your every day.  So if you buy lots of self-help books filled with this knowledge and skills or read lots of Instagram posts with motivational quotes, can you expect to grow? You might, but I’m guessing the odds are stacked against you, right?!

So what are the day to day skills you need to master to grow?  I don’t exactly know what will help you personally, as we know, everyone is different.  What I do know is that lots of work/time/research has been done around the world to find out what helps people grow.  In fact, a whole industry has emerged because people want to improve their health.  Yet, as a society, people want a quick fix.  At a guess, do you think the knowledge and skills to maintain sustainable lifestyle changes are acquired overnight?  Like the famous shampoo and conditioner, it won’t happen overnight, but it will happen, with learning and time, that is.  I don’t think you want to be in that disappointing predicament this time next year.

So herein lies the challenge, will you take the time to ‘water your tree’ and do some learning to grow in 2016? I sure hope so.

Why Wellness Assist in 2016?

I’ve decided 2016 is going to be my year, my year to help people achieve.  No, it wasn’t that I set myself some crazy new year’s resolutions and had to commit to following through with them.  To be honest, it was that I took a look back over the last 5+ years of my life and realised how far I’d come.  Yes, I have a journey, like a lot of people, to some it might not be exciting, but to others its shows personal strength and what the mind and body is capable of.

You see, I’ve lost weight, and I’ve put weight on, and then lost it again. Its not lost, like I’m looking for it, its lost like, I said, good riddance when it ‘disappeared’.

With the ‘losing’ of weight, I’ve gained both physical and mental strength and I can say, with conviction, that I’m not going looking for the ‘lost’ weight any time soon….  With the loss though, came so many gains.  I’ve gained so many things, including health, muscles, confidence, friends, and new experiences – some I continue to use, others I would rather forget – like when I fell off my bike during an enticer triathlon….FYI after a few cracks, I’ve decided triathlon isn’t my sport, though I did try!

So, while you could say I wasn’t enticed by triathlon, I wasn’t discouraged either, I’ve just shifted my focus, to being the best version of myself.  I know that’s a bit cliche’, not sure whose line it was first, but I want to be someone my boys look up to.  Yes, I’m a Mum to two handsome and boisterous boys, and I must say they are part of many of my reasons for making sustainable lifestyle changes.  I’m also a wife, I’ve been lucky enough to be with my awesome husband for almost 10 years now, wow, that makes me feel a little old!  He too, has a journey, but I don’t have his permission to share, so that is for a future blog. The other main hat I fashion is that I’m a Registered Nurse, I wouldn’t say it defines me, but certainly has presented some interesting life experiences since I graduated 13 years ago!!  As we all do, there are other titles I hold dear, though, it wouldn’t leave much to talk about if I spilled them all now, would it?!

So I invite you to join me, join my blog and find out about the cultivating that has gone on since the start of this journey I speak of!  I look forward to sharing and perhaps even helping you achieve!

Bring on 2016!!