‘I’ll give you a ____/10’

Here we are in 2018 – I hope your first few days of the new year have been kind!


So, I’ve just been looking over my blog…and it looks like I haven’t written one since October – so I thought I should get on it!

For 2017, Wellness Assist was all about ‘I Choose Marvellous’ and to be honest, I’m very keen to know what you thought of it???

To me, the topics were very relevant to choosing a Marvellous life – but I would love to know if you thought they were too!!

Send me a message or comment when I post this blog link.  While you’re on a roll, you can also tell me what you might like more or less of in 2018!!

I have a few things planned but YOUR feedback is crucial to Wellness Assist ticking YOUR boxes!

From this end, I’m in the process of updating website AND from March I’m very excited to actually announce I will be doing some online health coaching! Boom!

I’ve waited so long to be able to write that!!

Specific details are still to be finalised and when they are, you guys will be the first to know!

The choosing Marvellous theme will, of course continue this year, but probably in a few different ways.

What are your plans for 2018?? I’d love to hear all about them too!

Me? I’ve started writing down some goals for the year but that’s as far as I’ve gotten (and since it’s only day 4, I’m being pretty kind to myself about that – you should too!)

Just a few quick words on on goals – you must hand write them, and put them somewhere you will see them every day. That is all (for now)!  You can know for sure though, that I will, no doubt, bang on about this a little more sometime soon, yep, I will, and you’re welcome 😉

That’s the only advice I’m giving for now – as I’m sure everyone is feeling a bit bombarded about goals and how they are going to achieve in 2018, I know I am!!?

As you know, I’m all for setting goals – but you must walk the walk not just talk the talk if you are actually going to make them a reality.

Please do leave me that feedback re: 2017 (even if you just wish to leave a score out of 10 – I’m ready!) and I look forward to continuing to share the choosing a Marvellous life message, as well as growing the Wellness Assist impact!

Why Practising Self-Validation is Important.

Do you know someone who pretends?  And who requires ‘approval’ from others?

I’m not talking dress ups.

More of the ‘trying to make out they are someone they aren’t?’ type.

To be honest, I’ve never, personally, really understood that.  I’m more of a ‘what you see is a what you get kind of person’.

Masking one’s true personality is easily done on social media – you just post what you want people to see and there you have it – an identity that may or may not be a true reflection of the person.  That identity though, is often cultivated to seek external reward from the people they are trying to impress.  Unfortunately that reward on social media is short lived, people move very quickly to their next ‘like’.

Will the number of likes, shares and comments help you live a full meaningful life? And are we in control of these?

We all know the answer to both questions….(No)

The truth is that we can only truly control what we think of ourselves – we need our own internal ways in which we are able to self-validate.

Psychology Today (2014) tells us that ‘Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts and feelings.’  Which means recognising and managing your own thoughts.  Given a chance, I’m always talking about mindfulness – it fits in really well here and is a great place to start with self-validation.

As with mindfulness, self-validation is something we require practice at.

Will you practice?

Is it a far better an alternative that relying on the external validation from social media? (I think yes.)

Be the Change.

Points to ponder from ‘Embrace’ the documentary

Be the change.  Last night I watched ‘Embrace’ the documentary – acknowledging body diversity and highlighting the impact of how much less than positive body image affects people, mostly women.

Taryn Brumfitt does a great job – as she describes, she was ‘compelled’ to know more after her ‘not typical before and after’ photos went viral.  They didn’t go viral because she was a smart woman, a loving wife and capable mother of three, but rather because her photos showed that she was at a better point in her life when she was ‘bigger’ rather than when she was at her thinnest.

I won’t say any more, I don’t want to spoil the show, because you should see it, as should every young person, boys included – positive body image isn’t just about the girls in our society.

Taryn, as part of the Body Image Movement is doing lots of amazing stuff, but I believe as the most important component, she has made it her mission to get ‘Embrace’ the documentary into schools.  This is an area we need to help to create positive change in celebrating body diversity and encourage positive body image.

Here’s my top 5 points for you to ponder:

  1. Society is us – you often hear ‘society’ referred to as something that is out of our control, but is it really?  We are the people who shape the lives of those around us – we are society and if we want to see or make a change in ‘society’, it has to start with us!
  2. We need to love our bodies – Taryn words it well – “…our bodies are not ornaments, they are vehicles for our dreams….’  And this takes practice.  How good would it be if we were measured for doing the things that make you happy, being a good role model, creating something that we are proud of or contributing to ‘society’ rather than what we look like.  This is the message we want to send our young people, especially our girls.
  3. Life is too short to compare your body to someone else’s – especially if it’s the excessively photoshopped model you see on the magazine cover.  The unobtainable image is just that, unobtainable.  And you don’t have to look far to realise how fragile life can be – take some time to stop giving yourself a hard time.
  4. Even ‘the perfect girls’ don’t believe they are perfect – what if you did have ‘your perfect body’ and you were miserable?!! Skinny DOES NOT equal happy.
  5. We choose to make either the positive or negative attitudes contagious – Which one will you choose?  Not only choose, but send as a message to our young people?

Our bodies are our friends and our homes – how about you try being as compassionate to ourselves as we are our dear friends, share stories and the message we are all beautiful, just as we are.


How much do you know about Diabetes?

This is a special week.  It’s National Diabetes Week – I know I have blogged about diabetes before, and as I think I said then, its a topic very close to my heart.  See featured image.

This isn’t me looking for sympathy, so far from that, but rather its one to get you talking about diabetes and perhaps understanding more of what its even about.

Diabetes Queensland have an excellent overview of what the day is all about here:  http://www.diabetesqld.org.au/get-involved/what’s-on/2016/july/national-diabetes-week.aspx

I can hear some people saying, how common is it anyway?  Diabetes Australia have these numbers on their website – 280 Australians develop diabetes everyday, ie. one person is diagnosed every 5 minutes.  Staggering, huh?

This includes the three main types – Type 1 Diabetes, Type 2 Diabetes and Gestational Diabetes, as described below by Diabetes Queensland:

Type 1 diabetes – is a life-long autoimmune condition that is usually diagnosed in childhood or early adulthood but can occur at any age. 

In type 1 diabetes, the body’s own immune system attacks and destroys the beta cells in the pancreas that are responsible for producing insulin.  As the body needs insulin to survive, people with type 1 diabetes must replace this insulin every day.   At present, insulin can only be given by injections or through a pump. Type 1 diabetes affects approximately 10 per cent of people with diabetes. 

Type 2 diabetes is the most common form of diabetes, affecting approximately 85 to 90 per cent of all people with diabetes. The body still produces some insulin, but it may not be enough or work well enough to keep blood glucose levels within a healthy range. 

 Type 2 diabetes can be treated with lifestyle modifications such as a healthy, balanced diet and regular physical activity but often medications such as tablets or insulin may also be required.

The symptoms of type 2 diabetes may not be obvious. Tiredness, lethargy, thirst and blurred vision can often be put down to normal daily stresses, age, or general wear and tear. Getting people diagnosed early remains a key priority for Diabetes Queensland.

Gestational Diabetes is a type of diabetes that occurs in pregnancy.  Between 5 per cent and 10 per cent of pregnant women will develop gestational diabetes. All women are checked for gestational diabetes between weeks 24 to 28 of pregnancy.

The good news is gestational diabetes usually goes away once the baby is born….For mothers, there is an increased risk of developing type 2 diabetes later in life, with a 30 to 50 per cent chance of developing it within 15 years after your pregnancy. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle will reduce the risk significantly.

While different in some ways, they are similar in that every ‘type’ of diabetes requires daily management and care.  This can be exhausting.

As the support person of someone with diabetes, it is always on my mind.  Can you imagine having to be so cautious of your every action and the impact it will potentially have on your blood glucose level??  Or, as a parent, trying to pre-empt the effect the food your child might (or might not) eat and dose the insulin accordingly?  Massive shout out to all the parents of children with Diabetes – you guys seriously should all be congratulated and celebrated frequently for what you do every single day!

Every time I read about advances in research – I get a little bit excited … and then feel disappointed because it won’t fix it in the short-term.  Until the breakthrough is made and widely available, we continue, supporting our loved ones in their ongoing management of their diabetes.

We must continue to recognise that the person with the diabetes is the most important person in their diabetes management team.  It is paramount we trust their instincts through our support of them.

I continue to remind myself that, yes, I’m a nurse, but I have to put my wife hat on and know I’m the second most important person in the diabetes management team.

As I have been typing this, I’ve realised, it is almost a tribute – well played if I do say so myself – people with diabetes deserve one – this goes out to all the people managing their diabetes (and their support people!)

This week especially, I ask you to talk to someone about Diabetes.

And have a great Diabetes week!!

Featured Image Photo Credit:  Diabetes Queensland


How is your next holiday looking?

So….you ate too much chocolate at Easter??  The chocolate distracted you from looking after yourself?  ‘It was a gift – I had to eat it!’  ‘Can’t let it go to waste’. Blahblahblah – who has heard some of those excuses out of their own mouth or someone close to you’s mouth in the last few days?  They could be seen as excuses or for the sake of this blog, lets call them distractions to your healthy lifestyle.

We all have distractions in life – they may look different for different people, but they are there, lurking around.  They might be well meaning edible gifts from family and friends or they might be in the shape of cute small people, who take up the much of your time.  Or it may really bother you how people on your ‘newsfeed’ persistently post their ‘perfect’ posts – it doesn’t matter what it is, there will always be distractions!

It is how we manage these distractions that matters!!  Do you know what yours are?  Do you know the distractions that stand between you and your healthy lifestyle?  There also lies the question, can we afford to be distracted from our own health??  Personally, I don’t think so, what’s your thoughts?

On that note, you know what I find strange, is that most people will spend longer planning their next holiday than deliberately taking time to look after their own health??  Are you guilty of this??

WARNING – I’m pretty sure I have said this in a previous blog and I will continue using this line because it is so simple yet so valuable. – self-care is not selfish. 

Self-care includes knowing what your distractions are so you can find an achievable and sustainable solution or compromise for them!  Obviously, some distractions are part of life eg. like those small cute people I referred to in the second paragraph – we love them dearly AND they don’t have to be a distraction!  For example – include those said small people in your healthy lifestyle – be a role model to them – show them that exercise and eating well is fabulous or that having a go at something new can be lots of fun.  Solutions will come at you, if that’s what you focus on – how much do you want to be healthy??

I guess the message is – distractions are always there, but they are only distracting if you let them be!