Hello fellow school holiday adventurers – as a Mum, there is a part of me that loves this time and there is a part of me that is in a spin about how I will juggle the children and all of the other commitments. I suspect I’m not alone…..
No, this isn’t a ‘school holiday survival’ blog – its actually a little note about using school terms as a lead to schedule a cycle of self-care for yourself. That is – for your wellness, schedule yourself a break every 3-4 months!! That’s my advice to the Mums out there – keep reading to see why!
Obviously, the break is unlikely to be in the school holidays exactly, unless you are a teacher – what I’m saying is to use the school holidays an prompt to factor in this self-care time.
Some people may need some mini-breaks in between, but to have a ‘time-out’ scheduled on a regular cycle is just such a sensible approach for self-care. My argument would also be that it is better for your household harmony too! We know hat sometimes things just need to be diarised to make them happen!
This said time is for the purpose of:
- doing nothing – that’s right, nothing at all – do you accept this part of the challenge?
- Taking some time to feel grateful – for all that you have. In fact, write down the things that you are grateful for – going forward, refer back to it periodically.
- This is not a time for feeling guilty, you know, the ‘mum’ type of guilt – everyone will be absolutely fine without you for your scheduled time (**this time might only consist of a few hours if your children are really small or extend to a few days if they are a bit older)
- Knowing you’re enough!! Take some time to add yourself to the things you are grateful for – know that you are doing your best right now and that’s all you can do!
- Catching a glimpse of the person you were before you were a Mum – its no secret that we change in lots of way once we become Mums, however, it doesn’t mean we like the person we were any less!
- Taking your time, like, not rushing to the next engagement/appointment – for once respect the time you give yourself.
This said time is not for:
- household chores – I’d put money on those still being there when you return!
- using technology – this equates to doing something, see dot point one in what this time is for.
- planning anything – this is not self-care – you can do that another time.
- to-do lists – you know the ones you have when you manage some rare time without the children, do it when you finish your time-out – it will be clearer then anyway!
Note, this time needs to be planned in advance to allow time for babysitting arrangements to be made and for you to be comfortable with the plans. Don’t complicate this – keep it simple – just make time for it because you know it will make this parenting gig a little easier! For example, I met up with a friend at her house last weekend and had a sleep, at her house – it was SOOO good! Life with children can be intense, it is easier when we can put some perspective on the things that matter.
I think I’ve talked about self-care before and why its so important for wellness and thriving and general good health. The notion of using school holidays as a prompt was something that seriously, just came to me today – do you like?
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