‘I’ll give you a ____/10’

Here we are in 2018 – I hope your first few days of the new year have been kind!

 

So, I’ve just been looking over my blog…and it looks like I haven’t written one since October – so I thought I should get on it!

For 2017, Wellness Assist was all about ‘I Choose Marvellous’ and to be honest, I’m very keen to know what you thought of it???

To me, the topics were very relevant to choosing a Marvellous life – but I would love to know if you thought they were too!!

Send me a message or comment when I post this blog link.  While you’re on a roll, you can also tell me what you might like more or less of in 2018!!

I have a few things planned but YOUR feedback is crucial to Wellness Assist ticking YOUR boxes!

From this end, I’m in the process of updating website AND from March I’m very excited to actually announce I will be doing some online health coaching! Boom!

I’ve waited so long to be able to write that!!

Specific details are still to be finalised and when they are, you guys will be the first to know!

The choosing Marvellous theme will, of course continue this year, but probably in a few different ways.

What are your plans for 2018?? I’d love to hear all about them too!

Me? I’ve started writing down some goals for the year but that’s as far as I’ve gotten (and since it’s only day 4, I’m being pretty kind to myself about that – you should too!)

Just a few quick words on on goals – you must hand write them, and put them somewhere you will see them every day. That is all (for now)!  You can know for sure though, that I will, no doubt, bang on about this a little more sometime soon, yep, I will, and you’re welcome 😉

That’s the only advice I’m giving for now – as I’m sure everyone is feeling a bit bombarded about goals and how they are going to achieve in 2018, I know I am!!?

As you know, I’m all for setting goals – but you must walk the walk not just talk the talk if you are actually going to make them a reality.

Please do leave me that feedback re: 2017 (even if you just wish to leave a score out of 10 – I’m ready!) and I look forward to continuing to share the choosing a Marvellous life message, as well as growing the Wellness Assist impact!

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Be the Change.

Points to ponder from ‘Embrace’ the documentary

Be the change.  Last night I watched ‘Embrace’ the documentary – acknowledging body diversity and highlighting the impact of how much less than positive body image affects people, mostly women.

Taryn Brumfitt does a great job – as she describes, she was ‘compelled’ to know more after her ‘not typical before and after’ photos went viral.  They didn’t go viral because she was a smart woman, a loving wife and capable mother of three, but rather because her photos showed that she was at a better point in her life when she was ‘bigger’ rather than when she was at her thinnest.

I won’t say any more, I don’t want to spoil the show, because you should see it, as should every young person, boys included – positive body image isn’t just about the girls in our society.

Taryn, as part of the Body Image Movement is doing lots of amazing stuff, but I believe as the most important component, she has made it her mission to get ‘Embrace’ the documentary into schools.  This is an area we need to help to create positive change in celebrating body diversity and encourage positive body image.

Here’s my top 5 points for you to ponder:

  1. Society is us – you often hear ‘society’ referred to as something that is out of our control, but is it really?  We are the people who shape the lives of those around us – we are society and if we want to see or make a change in ‘society’, it has to start with us!
  2. We need to love our bodies – Taryn words it well – “…our bodies are not ornaments, they are vehicles for our dreams….’  And this takes practice.  How good would it be if we were measured for doing the things that make you happy, being a good role model, creating something that we are proud of or contributing to ‘society’ rather than what we look like.  This is the message we want to send our young people, especially our girls.
  3. Life is too short to compare your body to someone else’s – especially if it’s the excessively photoshopped model you see on the magazine cover.  The unobtainable image is just that, unobtainable.  And you don’t have to look far to realise how fragile life can be – take some time to stop giving yourself a hard time.
  4. Even ‘the perfect girls’ don’t believe they are perfect – what if you did have ‘your perfect body’ and you were miserable?!! Skinny DOES NOT equal happy.
  5. We choose to make either the positive or negative attitudes contagious – Which one will you choose?  Not only choose, but send as a message to our young people?

Our bodies are our friends and our homes – how about you try being as compassionate to ourselves as we are our dear friends, share stories and the message we are all beautiful, just as we are.

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Are you a responsible human?

I hope you know its RU OK? Day next week, on Thursday.  Its been around since 2009 and while the concept is simple, the question, RU OK?, can make a massive difference to someone’s life.

We know that isolation and loneliness are rampant in our society, as is the impact of mental health conditions.

These numbers are from the RU OK? Day website and I’ve got to be honest – I work in health and was shocked reading through them, this is really important:

  • About 8 people take their own lives every day in Australia
  • 65,000 people attempt suicide each year
  • Suicide is the biggest killer of Australians under 44 years
  • Men account for around 75 per cent of all suicide deaths

What do you think about those?  I think you would be kidding yourself to think this wasn’t a massive problem.  As a responsible human, it is reasonably accepted that you could do something to contribute to improving these deplorable statistics.

It would be super easy to get caught up in your own ‘stuff’ and not ask that simple question….but we can’t, that’s not ok!!

We owe it to each other as humans to stay connected and have regular meaningful conversations!!

We need to actively and courageously start genuine conversations.  This can be as easy as taking a few minutes to show some care and empathy.  The listening should be active and needs to happen without judgement.  You don’t have to solve the ‘problem’ but rather encourage action and check in on them again soon after the conversation (as explained in detail at http://www.ruok.org.au)

From the health perspective, this is what we would call peer-led early intervention.  Sounds fancy, but really just describes that we are often we are happier to listen to and open up to our peers – so the concept of RU OK? Day has SO much merit.

And lastly, if you are the one being asked RU OK? Please know it is more than OK to say ‘No, I’m not ok’  The people around you who care about you are well placed to provide support for you – let them!  They value you enough to ask how you are, so value yourself enough to speak freely about how you are feeling.

When we feel valued we have reasons bigger than ourselves to be able to deal with life’s up’s and down’s.

So what does this mean for you? – there are two main points to take away:

  1. Ask your important people ‘RUOK?’ and
  2. Know when you are not OK!

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